heart wide open

Posted by in letters to the boys

This is what I was trying to say in my last blog post!  I said ‘giving love freely’ but I think I meant an open heart.  I think….  Regardless, this as I think about giving love freely I’ve been thinking about boundaries.  I stumbled upon this post after waking up in the middle of the night.

Good boundaries with a heart wide open? Is it really possible?

I used to think I had to be a hard ass to have good boundaries; yet it’s easier and more effective when I have my heart open.

I can speak my truth, even an unpopular truth, with my heart wide open and without defensiveness IF I remember it’s my truth and stop caring how it’s received.

The secret to speaking your mind without a lot of drama ie: defensiveness, anger, victimhood; is to do it clearly and without caring what others think~yet keep your heart OPEN.

It’s when I’m hooked into another’s reaction and acceptance that it gets sticky. When I don’t care what they think but do care about staying in my heart~I’m free.

Good boundaries don’t have to involve a lot of drama or backlash, just true power. THAT power is found in a wide open heart.
xo

 

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